What Message Are We Sending to Children

According to a recent Harvard University study, it appears that the message our children are receiving is that grades are more important than being a good person. Fairness and caring appear to be on the back burner.
Take a moment to read the article "How to Define Success, What values are being instilled in the next generation?"
http://eastsidemonthly.com/stories/august-2014-making-caring-common-success-brown-university-study,1...

Along with the report "The Children We Mean to Raise: The Real Message Adults are Sending About Values"
http://sites.gse.harvard.edu/making-caring-common

When we ask our children everyday to tell us about their homework, maybe we should also be asking them to tell us about something nice that they did for someone that day.